My Definition Of Success

There are hundreds of keys to success. In my understanding, success is the ability to manifest your values in life.

It’s that simple.

Values, however, can vary greatly. They are not just some abstract ideas, and are more tangible than it may seem. A value is your understanding of what is important to your own self. For example, wealth, growth, family, self-actualization, serving others, etc.

People act on their values and beliefs. They set goals based on their values. They buy things based on their values. They choose hobbies and who to communicate with based on these same values. Besides, every single day gives an opportunity to realize values.

As already mentioned, values can be different, and this is totally OK. For example, my two guiding sets are the three values by Viktor Frankl (creation, perception, attitude), and the Indian four temples (material well-being, joy, public service, spiritual growth). In fact, these two approaches have much in common.

What is important, we have to continuously realize our values to be successful. It’s not something that just happens. It’s a never-ending process.

So what happens in the long run?

If we manage to adhere to our values and act on our beliefs, we make our lives meaningful.

To sum up, success is the ability to make one’s life meaningful via implementing his or her values.

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Every Master Was Once A Beginner

I believe in three letters.

A

P

‘D’ stands for desire. One  need to have a burning desire to make one’s dreams come true. As Paulo Coelho nicely put it in The Alchemist, “when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

‘A’stands for action. Dreams without continuous action are nothing but daydreaming. Only action brings true knowledge, and only action propels us forward.

‘P’ stands for patience or perseverance. Patience is the ultimate ingredient that makes the dish complete, fresh and tasty. Indomitable confidence combined with the previous two steps can create magic results.

The difference between possible and impossible is only in the amount of time invested.

This is why we must never give up.

Every Wall Is A Door

This saying is attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson, a brilliant and inspirational American essayist, philosopher, and mystic.

We all have obstacles and difficult situations in our lives. And all of them have a reason.

No matter what the reason is, we also have a choice to either move on or surrender when facing a challenge.

I believe brick walls are one of the biggest blessings. For they can teach us self-awareness, perseverance, and patience.

It may happen that a wall will never be broken – no matter how hard you try.

Perhaps it was never meant to be.

Yet even in these cases we are granted an opportunity to try. And this is a door in such a case – a rewarding experience of realizing that trying is much better when compared to regretful thoughts of not having done so.

The truth is simple.

No matter how hard our days might be, there will always be a crystal of a precious learning experience in the end. We therefore need to accept with an open heart and joy any challenges that our destines throw at us.

This is, in fact, a mindset of a warrior.

Change what you cannot accept, and accept what you can’t change.

Give Up in Order to Win

Life gives opportunity to learn every day.

One of my recent lessons is that sometimes you need to give up your goal in order to achieve it.

Or perhaps it’s not just sometimes? Maybe it’s a universal principle?

That could be.

My philosophy has always been not to give up. Now I claim one needs to do so. I can formulate this as a paradox (at first sight):

Never give up on your goal.
Give it up to achieve it.

By not giving up I mean a very simple thing: try on and on until you succeed. Perspiration, perseverance and patience are keys to success.

By giving up I mean your goal must not eclipse everything else in your life. It must not cross out the feeling of here and now. A goal must be just one of many side lights, not the end of the journey.

Any goal lies in future by definition, yet the focus must stay in present.

By relaxing and enjoying the present moment we reach our goals much quicker than if we would be completely absorbed by a future achievement.

Navigate By Resistance

Recently I came across an inspiring video below with a simple yet profound message.

What we want to do least is what we need most. Fear is our compass. And we need to navigate by resistance to achieve success.

This idea resonates with every cell of my body. It also echoes with Richard Bach’s call to run away from safety.

Looking back at my life, I realize that whenever I had the courage to overcome my fears and embrace change, the results were overwhelming.

Ultimately we always have a choice between quest and comfort.

Why We Must Never Give Up

We often hear that we must never give up on anything. I will not restate the same thing here told millions of times already. Well, not in this post.

Instead I’d like to share a piece of Chinese wisdom that may give additional motivation.

So there is an old Chinese proverb which is one of my favorites. It goes as follows. The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.

Got it?

If you quit, it means you almost achieved what you aspired for.

Almost. But not really.

There’s a huge difference here, and don’t be mislead by ‘almost’ or ‘nearly’, This is the difference between success or failure. As simple as that.

So next time you give up on something, think that you almost succeeded. But ultimately failed.

Indeed, brick walls are there for a reason.