You Can Never Get More Than You Give

Perhaps the biggest discovery in my life is this.

Every thought we think and every action we do has a profound effect on how we feel and what we have today.

This is the law of cause and effect, law of attraction, karma – you name it. There are many definitions, but the essence is the same.

We reap what we saw.

I know that if I hadn’t done things I did in the past, I wouldn’t have become the person I am today. I wouldn’t have achieved what I have today. And I wouldn’t feel how I feel today.

We need to help one another.

Every smile, every kind word, and every helping gesture will never go away. They will inevitably come back. Sometimes not immediately – but for sure they will bring a rewarding experience in return.

We can never get more than we give.

Law Of Attraction: How I Ended Up In New York

This happened to me before I watched the famous (or perhaps infamous) “Secret” movie and learned about the law of attraction (LOA).

Back in my freshman’s year of college in Ukraine, I remember travelling home for the weekend and watching the Discovery channel at night. The program was about something that left me in total awe and surprise.

It was about a man-made wonder right in the middle of one of the busiest megalopolises on the planet. That night I watched the Central Park in New York City for the first time in my life.

Central Park, New York City

This was more than 10 years ago, but I still remember vividly my emotions that night.

At first, I was totally captivated by the charm and beauty of the park in a spot meant for nothing but the skyscraper jungle. Next, I had a sincere wish to be there at least for one moment. And immediately after that, I let it go because I was sure this was not possible. This just could not possibly happen.

Less than two years later I had a wonderful opportunity to participate in the Undergraduate Exchange Program to study at Concordia College, Minnesota for one academic year. The application and selection process was an adventure in itself. To cut the story short, in winter we had a reunion with my program fellows in Washington. DC. Around six of us decided to meet up in NYC a few days before that …

I remember clearly that moment. I arrived to New York earlier that the others, and went out to explore the Central Park. I had no memory of the Discover channel night whatsoever. It wasn’t until when I started walking in the park that it struck me: “Oh my God. Now I remember. I wanted this!”.

Somehow the chain of events unfolded in a way that made my inner wish come true.

The morale of the story is the following.

I do believe that the thing called “law of attraction” exists. Moreover, it works. However, it is often misinterpreted, not the least owing to the “Secret” movie.

My biggest claim to the above-mentioned documentary is that it misses out the main thing – nothing will happen until you take action.

You may sit in the lotus pose for hours mediating on such things as health and richness. Yet this will be nothing than a waste of time and mental energy if no practical steps are taken to achieve your goals or ideals.

LOA does work – but only if coupled with action. 

Positive Affirmations: Do They Work?

Last week I carried out an experiment.

Every day while commuting by metro to work, I self-tuned myself by saying repeatedly: “Today I am going to have a great day. I have enough time for all my tasks. Work comes and goes. The day is calm and smooth”.

Each day of that week went indeed calm and smooth, and I had time to accomplish all the tasks without any rush or stress.

Then, on another day I did not repeat that positive confirmation. And the day turned out to be hectic, stressful and energy-consuming.

Does this mean positive affirmations are crucial for a balanced and harmonious life?

I don’t think so.

Or, to be more precise, I believe they are just one of the factors that influence our lives and adjust the flow of our days. Besides, positive thinking and positive attitude are different things.

Yet perhaps positive affirmations are not fruitless either. At least two useful things that I took for myself are:

– calming down your mind (eliminating “inner talk”);

– training focus and concentration.

I still believe that action is THE most important ingredient of the recipe. The fifth element, if you wish. The so-called “law of attraction” that has been advertised throughout the world is bollocks if not accompanied with action. However, using positive affirmations is not entirely wrong either.

But let me repeat myself – only if backed up with acting, making and doing.

The Law Of Attraction Is Bollocks

This is what Tim Brownson, an inspirational life coach, a brilliant blogger and simply an amazing person claims in his post: The Final Nail In The Law Of Attraction Coffin.

The post may seem harsh at first, but please read it through till the end. I recommend it to everyone who’s been desperately trying to apply the principles of the law of attraction (like visualization, for instance) laid out in the famous “Secret” movie.

I’ve been uncomfortable myself with the “Secret” movie in the respect that it misses out the main thing: nothing will happen until you take action.

You may sit in the lotus pose for hours mediating on such things as health and richness, but this will be nothing than a waste of time and mental energy if no practical steps are taken to achieve your ideals.

It took me time and pain to understand that action is indispensable. Visualization does work – but only if coupled with action. Period.

And leave “The Secret” for dummies. Unfortunately, this appears to be a feature of our time: if you want to grow, you must be able to distinguish the small grains of truth from the immense rubbish out there.

Tell true from fake – that’s what we all need to learn.

What They Don’t Teach In Physics Lessons

Everyone remembers some basic physics lessons from school. Such lessons where simple yet fundamental things were introduced, like the law of gravity or Newton’s 3 laws of motion. What they never teach in school though, is that physical laws work as well in human society as in nature. So perhaps we could talk about universal rather than natural laws here.

Let me demonstrate this using a few classic concepts from physics. To begin with, let’s have a look at the three laws of motion formulated by a great scientist of Modernity Sir Isaac Newton.

The first law, known as “the law of inertia”, says:

An object at rest will remain at rest unless acted on by an unbalanced force. An object in motion continues in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

Now, let’s replace objects (things) with subjects (people). How does the the law work then? Exactly the same. To put it roughly, human beings tend to keep on doing what they’re doing. Moreover, they resist change (“unbalanced force”) that will take them out of their state of comfort and idleness. Such unbalanced force can be anything, from outside physical impact to inner desires.

The second law of motion goes as follows.

Acceleration is produced when a force acts on a mass. The greater the mass (of the object being accelerated) the greater the amount of force needed (to accelerate the object).

Outside physics, this simply means you need to work harder if you want to get harder results. This law was brilliantly formulated in the “Alice in Wonderland”:

Finally, Newton’s third law of motion says:

For every action there is an equal and opposite re-action.

Applied in everyday life, this means that for every action or effort undertaken there is resistance. If you criticize a person, he will close down. If you try to build up a career, competition will grow. If there is revolution, a political reaction (meaning “strike back”) is inevitable. Examples can be found by anyone virtually anywhere.

To conclude this post, let me also mention another nature’s fundamental law here – the law of gravity. Isaac Newton defined it as:

Every particle of matter in the universe attracts every other particle with a force that is directly proportional to the product of the masses of the particles and inversely proportional to the square of the distance between them.

If you think about it, this is exactly the law of attraction works when applied to human consciousness. All peoples, things, situations happen in our lives because we attract then. A very powerful interpretation of this law is “Thoughts are things”.

To sum up, the laws of physics work as well in our everyday lives as in the natural world. Perhaps this is because we are part of nature? 🙂