“Never give up!”
“You can do it!”
“Yes, you can!”
Being positive has been in trend recently. All gurus of self-development recommend positive attitude and thinking. “Think positive – and change your life!” has been the most popular recipe in the life kitchens of good honest men lately.
The truth is positive attitude has little to do with what is being promoted – or shall we say sold? – to the masses.
Consider this. Positive attitude is generally explained as staying positive no matter what happens. In other words, you need to maintain positive thinking even if shit happens. This will be bring different benefits. And this is how all mature people should do.
Positive attitude in this regard is equaled to positive thinking.
My biggest problem here is this.
Why should I care to remain positive to whatever the world brings instead of first focusing on myself? For me it makes more sense to first learn how to remain positive to myself, and then to the outside world.
Such “self-positiveness” has little to do with positive thinking. What it means in essence is unconditional acceptance of your own self. This means to:
- Love yourself
- Respect yourself
- Value yourself
- Accept and enjoy your body
- Accept and follow your life principles
This is what positive attitude means, Once embraced, it will trigger automatically positive attitude towards the world outside and generate positive thinking. Not the other way round!
You cannot think “Everything is awesome!” if you’re drowning in the web of your own psychological problems. It won’t be sincere. It’s that simple.
Trying to be “positive and open” to the world with a bunch of inner contradictions is a serious flaw. It is nothing but lying to yourself. One need to fix himself first before opening up to the world.
The word ‘unconditional’ here is crucial. Society strives to impose certain conditions for self-acceptance. For example, self-respect only in case of high income. Or loving yourself only if loved by someone else.
True positive attitude towards oneself is never conditioned by anything.
The self-confidence of the warrior is not the self-confidence of the average man. The average man seeks certainty in the eyes of the onlooker and calls that self-confidence. The warrior seeks impeccability in his own eyes and calls that humbleness. The average man is hooked to his fellow men, while the warrior is hooked only to infinity.